Since early age we are taught that older people know everyting better and that we should learn from them. We are educated by our parents, teachers, and elders about life in general - reading, behaving, dressing up, taking care of ourselfs, finance, how to work, respect, driving cars...you name it.
BUT there is only one thing that for some reason we shouldn't learn from older persons - SEX. For some strange reason its ok for them to teach us about everything in life except sex. We are left to learn about sex and sexuality from the porn movies and from the people of our age who mostly dont know anything anyway.
I remeber the first time I've tried to have sex with my boyfriend. We were both 15 and well...we both really didn't know too much about it. We tried having sex on 4 different occassions but it just didnt work out. He didnt know what to do, I didnt know what to do to make it easier for myself and him. After 4 "failed" attempts, he became very insecure. He stared avoiding me and finally we broke up. I am sure what happened left the strong influence on his sexual behaviour in later years, just as it left it on mine.
I really don't see the reason why the cases of consensual sex between older persons and younger teens (regardeless of their sex) should be treated as rape - because they are not.